HOW I BUILT SUCCESS ...AND HOW YOU CAN TOO! (PART 1)

Wouldn’t it be great if there was a manual called “LIFE” that teaches us how to manage money instead of teaching us just sums? How to cultivate success habits instead of just learning History? How to develop a strong mindset instead of just learn to play sports? 

It’s ironic that schools teach subjects like geography, history, math and biology but they don’t teach us how to use money and accumulate abundance, they don’t teach us how to use history as a life lesson, nor do they teach us how to cultivate happy and healthy relationships.

Have you ever wondered why you are where you are today? 

I grew up in a conservative Indian family in Indonesia where we lived with my uncles and aunts as a “joint family” (the term” joint family” is a common term in India where the extended family lives in one household).

As a child, I saw the role of women at home and my assumption was that this is how a woman should be. When you are 5, you do not have the ability or the wisdom to understand right from wrong. You assume that whatever you see is how it is supposed to be. You accept it as reality. 

According to Science, until the age of 6, we are being programmed. During this time, a child’s brain is recording all sensory experiences as well as learning other things like learning to speak, crawl, run and jump. Simultaneously, the child is also learning about life by observing, downloading and absorbing all the information about the world and how it works.

By observing the behavior of other people and their environment—primarily parents, siblings, and relatives—children learn social behaviors. It’s important to realize that everything we experience before the age of six, becomes the fundamental subconscious programs that shape the character of our lives. 

So, my whole life, I assumed that women’ sole purpose in life was to serve and tend to their men. My aunts and my mother were amazing women who multi-tasked like goddesses. They looked after their kids, the home, their husbands, the laundry, the kitchen and the in-laws!! That’s all they did day in day out. Part of me assumed it was the norm. The other part of me did not want to grow up to become like them. 

So how did a girl with humble beginnings break her subconscious programming to become the first highly educated person - a lawyer qualified in two jurisdictions (yes a woman!) in her family? How did she expand her portfolio from legal to business development sales and marketing? Why did she then walk away from a highly successful career to become an equally successful entrepreneur? 

Dreams don’t happen by accident. They require a plan and a clear strategy. 

Do you want to write your own story and create your own reality? Over the years, I created a framework on how you get from where you are to where you want to be (real life to dream life) and since then I have been teaching women all over the world to create their own reality.

In this FOUR PART article, I will share with you some things you can do to take charge of your life. 

LIFE doesn’t happen to us. WE happen to life. 

Let's start with STEP 1. 

The first step is to REFLECT. 

WHAT ARE THE BELIEFS CULTIVATED AROUND SUCCESS, ESPECIALLY SUCCESS FOR WOMEN ? 

The beliefs you carry are the building blocks of your life. Imagine them to be the bricks that build your home. What kind of a home do you want? Are you using the right materials to build them?

Growing up, I only saw women who were dependent on men for their wealth and well being. They weren't empowered to make any decisions for themselves, nor were they self sufficient and independent.

My "a-ha" moment was when I reflected on that belief. What it was was just a belief. And I had the power to change that. 

What beliefs do you carry that is holding you back from your success? 
Reflect on that belief and write it down. 

Watch out for Part II where I go deeper into this exercise. Enjoy your reflections!

Love and Light

Meena